Saturday, April 18, 2009


I promised one of my friend to post this on my blog..

So for the past 2 months (approximately) Pst Kong is preaching about marriage relationship. Basically the main objective is so that all the members will have strong marriage. 

So the sermon started in what is Marriage 

1 Corinthians 7:3
= marriage is giving exclusive right for each other.

The reason for getting married is to meet each other needs. So affair will happen when the needs are not met.
And as all of you know that man's and woman's needs are different. 

So Pst Kong started the first series of relationship by telling us the 5 basic needs of man and woman. These are the basic needs:

I'll start with woman's

1. Affection
affection symbolize: security, protection, comfort, and approval
Song Of Solomon 4:1-9

2. Conversation
base on research 89% of marriage broke because lack of communication
to satisfy this need, man must talk to his spouse for minimum of 15 hours/week
and this 15 hours must be intimate as in privately without intervention (even their child)
Conversation will help to:
=> Find out the needs of each other
=> Find out if you have meet each other's need
Philippians 2:4

3. Honesty and Openness 
Giving 100% trust
=> telling everything you know and also everything you think
without honesty and openness woman will feel insecure 
For man: you must tell your spouse everything, wether it is bad or good. 
=> woman got intuition and they are much more stronger than you think

4. Financial Support
this means enough money to support her life
1 Timothy 5:8 => man must support your family
financial support is one of the emotional need
woman would like to work because she loves to not because she has to

5. Family Commitment 
Every wives want their husbands to take lead of the family
what she wants:
=> Spend lots of time with the children (family quality time)
=> Proper parenting skills 
=> provide wise discipline 
      Ephesians 6:4 => don't make unreasonable rules
=> Explain rules to kids ==> explaining the reason
=> Learn how to handle anger

Man's needs

1. Sexual Fulfillment 
Don't get it wrong, this is for married couple
And for woman, it does matter for your spouse.. ^^

2. Recreational Companionship 
To have fun with him
for being the best-est friend and playmate 
be willing to spend time ==> 15 hours per week

3. Attractive Spouse 
1 Samuel 16:7
=> quoting from Pst. Kong "how many of you know that your spouse is not God?"
haha... yea, he is stimulated by his sight
what you look does matter
by taking care of your appearance, you are taking care of your husband
5 major areas: weight control, make up, hair style, clothes, cosmetic surgery

4. Domestic Support
Peace and quite at home 
Proverbs 17:1 
Man hates troubles at home
For man home is a place to relax 
how to maintain? make a list of weekly household duty and fair division of labor

5. Admiration
Ephesians 5:33
honest admiration brings motivation and confidence 
man needs his wive to be his no.1 fans 

Well, today i'm only going to post this one.. later when i got time, i'll try to finish the others.. 


- be blessed -

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