When a relationship doesn't go well, problems may come. Conflict may arise. And negative thought may come.
As we are a Christian, we are supposed to solve the problem according to the bible.
We talk it out.
But sometimes after that the relationship may not be able to stay the same way it used to be.
Things are just not the same, heart that has been hurt, trust issue, etc.
We may not talk and put the problems on the table again, but really, this is not the ending.
I used to thought that not talking about it anymore is enough. But it is not.
But now i realized that we also have to restore the love that has been there before.
If you ask why, it is easy to answer. When we sin against God, we are making "problems" in our relationship with God. Is God's heart hurt? Yea. Is there any trust issue?? Of course yea. But do God abandon you and give you less love?? NO. So if we are supposed to be transformed to be more and more like God, we have to learn how to restore the love that used to be there.
The big question now is HOW??? "How can we love and trust people that hurt us once??"
There is only one simple answer to this question:
Give A Chance
How can we expect people to change when they see that we don't give a chance. And even though they have changed, we wouldn't be able to see it because we are departing ourself by building a wall between us and them.
It doesn't matter how much verses from the Bible you know if you don't do it. It doesn't matter how many times you say that you can forget about it, if you don't give them a chance to show how much they have changed and ready to love you.